“The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” — Carlos Castaneda
“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away” — Shing Xiong
We all have problems. No one is immune from them. From birth to death….The infant cries for milk and an elderly person may worry if tomorrow will come. Reaching, striving and working hard at being happy will never remove any of our individual problems. We must accept the fact that everyday life will bring it’s own set of problems into our lives.
Yet, we still think that “if only this was fixed” or “if only that was solved”, we would find happiness.
I think one of the first things we can do to attain happiness is to simply accept those problems situations as things in our lives that just “are”. They are what they are…..issues, hassles, conflicts………problems. They just are. They have no energy of their own. They are fed by our reactions to them.
I’ve found that the more that I push back against them, the more difficult things become. My thoughts become clearer when realize that solving all of my problems will not bring me any more happiness. Only by accepting and allowing things to play out and observing without judgement, can we relax and begin to see all of the other good things in our lives. When we starting noticing those good little bits of happiness we will begin to think less about our problems.
To quote Steve Maraboli:
What tips do you have for finding happiness in a life filled with problems?
Read more from Steve Maraboli. You can find it here. → Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
“I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate.” — George Burns
Have you ever noticed that when you are struggling to accomplish something, it’s more enjoyable if it is something that you love to do? Successfully doing something that you dislike never quite ends with complete satisfaction. It’s like….well, I did it………..now what’s next. On the other hand, when you are loving whatever it is that you are doing, the results seem minor compared to the feeling that you get while you are “doing the doing”.
The feeling that you enjoyed the process and are satisfied with the results. Even if those results are not perfect.
What are you doing today that you love to do? And if you fail, do you love it enough to be satisfied with the failure because you enjoyed the process…..the doing?
Today, find something to do that gives you true enjoyment regardless of the results. Don’t worry about being a failure at something you love.
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” — Buddha
Have you ever noticed that no matter how down you are feeling, it only takes a good word from one happy person to brighten your day?
That is, if your mind is open to the possibility that you can be happy under your current situation.
And have you ever noticed that even when you are feeling low, if you can make yourself show a little happiness to another human being, you feel a little happier yourself?
Each of us has the capacity to be “a single candle” in this world.
Today, right now, be a light of happiness for someone else. And, keep a watchful eye for others that are sharing their happiness, one candle at a time.